Of course, I did it for my in-laws, and not my spouse. Here are my results.
Below 90: In your efforts to tiptoe around someone else’s moods, in the hope of avoiding blow-ups, put-downs, criticism, disgusted looks, sighs of disapproval, or cold shoulders, you unconsciously edit what you say. To some extent, you second-guess your judgment, ideas, and preferences about how to live. You might even begin to question what you think is right and wrong. You probably have a vague feeling, at least now and then, that you are losing yourself. Your perceptions of reality and your sense of self are changing for the worse. You may experience physical symptoms such as headaches, muscle aches, or stomach aches.
I honestly have so much anxiety with my in-laws. I'm extremely fearful of what they have done and what they could do. I think of scenarios that could happen; things they could possibly do in the future. It's just this never ending cycle that won't go away. They don't stop. They are now attacking my dad. What in the world is up with that? They are trying to destroy him. My dad handles it better than I do, but I'm so bothered by them. The things they are doing against my dad are backfiring, and they are not getting the results they want. One day, they'll realize they have built themselves walls of problems they cannot escape from. They are in the process of destroying their own lives; not mine.
