Tuesday, January 15, 2013

Grandchildren

We recently welcomed our first child. We are in heaven with this baby! We also moved about 6 months ago. We were really hoping that my in-laws wouldn't find us. We took all of the precautions we could - being unlisted, going under the radar, even forwarding our mail to a PO Box. However, they still found us! How do they do that? A PI? I don't know. It honestly freaks me out a little bit. I feel like we are being watched or something. Well, when I was pregnant, they never hinted that they knew anything, so we figured they didn't know. I was actually excited because I figured all of our discreetness paid off. But within a couple of weeks of having the baby, they knew. This is also when they found us and sent stuff in the mail to us. I don't understand. And they are playing the victim of not knowing this grandchild of their's. Ugh, it is so frustrating! I mean honestly, how can you say I don't exist and I'm not family and expect to have anything to do with our child? How can you treat my husband and me the way you have and expect to have anything to do with our child? Um, no. Not only is that just off thinking, but we will never expose our child to people that have made us feel the way they have. We want our child safe from their mistreatment. All they have done to us - there is no way we would put our child in that kind of danger. Just because they have the same blood doesn't make them family. Family doesn't do the things they have done. It's like this quote from Cougar Town:
"The people we love need to know we’re always on their side. You don’t get a free pass just because you share the same blood. Being part of a family is something you’ve gotta earn; otherwise, the heck with ya."

I just wish I knew how they always find us everywhere we go. They almost immediately know when and where we move. How? It is scary. If they show up at our door, we're not opening it; we're just calling the cops because they are scary and we have to protect our child from them. I always thought I wouldn't care that much if they found out we had a baby; kind of like an, "Oh well" sort of thing. But now that I know they know, all I care about is keeping our baby safe from them.