We had a "visitor" last month. I didn't write about it immediately because we've been trying for a baby for a while, and have been under a lot of stress with that. I just got diagnosed with pcos a couple of weeks ago, and I just started the medications for it (hopefully they work!). Needless to say, I've been emotional about other stuff lately (for good reason, right?).
Well, at the end of February we had a knock on our door one Saturday afternoon. It was my in-laws' "adopted" son. You know, the one they say they adopted but they didn't, and he's really just a replacement for my husband.
We didn't answer - duh! But he did walk down to his BRIGHT YELLOW (hard to miss that car, haha) truck. He came running back up to our door with a piece of paper in his hand. It was a bunch of bull poopie about how they talk about us often and they miss us, blah blah blah. That he's visiting a friend in our town and looked us up on his own to see if we wanted to catch up over lunch or dinner or something.
I'm sorry, catch up? Dude, we met you once, and it was the same time you met the rest of my in-laws. It was when my husband was sick and almost died and my brother-in-law didn't even care to tell you my name; he just said I was his brother's wife.
Anyway, he said in the note at least 4 times that my in-laws didn't ask him to come by, that he came by on his own, and that they don't even know he came by. Ummmm, yeah right. First of all, you definitely wouldn't come by on your own. You don't even know us. Second of all, if you have to repeat that statement that many times throughout the note, then you're definitely lying about that!
Well, my sister followed him to make sure he wasn't coming back (PI anyone?). haha. He went to the zoo and met up with my father-in-law, mother-in-law, and sister-in-law. They never showed up anywhere we were though. Lucky, much?
It's interesting. It's been about a year since they sent anything to us that was downright mean. In fact, they don't do as much directly to us anymore. They still send stuff, but it's not as often, and it's not as straight forward mean. They usually only send stuff when they want to make us feel like we're missing out (vacations, weddings, his brother's having a baby, etc.). They are usually full of a bunch of crap, and sometimes have underlying digs (his brother hit a "homerun" with his wife; remember that one?).
Well, they try to be "nice" in what they send us lately, but they have no problem posting digs at me/us online.
Case in point. The DAY after the "adopted" guy got rejected by us not opening the door for him and leaving a note full of bologna (basically, it not going the way they wanted), my father-in-law posts this on his facebook (I copied and pasted - typos and misspellings and everything - he's not very bright; I italicized the part I want y'all to pay attention to):
Sitting
in church and feeling greatful and humble. I want my kids to know how
much I love them and how pleased I am with them. Sitting here picturing
the beautiful smiles on my daughters beautiful faces, the joy my sons
give me every time we talk, a beautiful and wonderful daughter-in-law
that makes my son happy and is a great example to my daughters. The Lord
has blessed me and my beautiful wife, my best friend with eternal joy. ("Adopted" grandson) and (My husband's brother's baby on the way) papa loves you ( my buddies)
Did y'all catch that?! Daughter-in-law; not daughter-in-laws (and we've been married far longer than his brother and his wife - they haven't even been married a year). hahahaha...and you wonder why we don't want to talk to y'all?! Wow, such a hurtful dig, especially since you have flat out told my husband that I am not family and I don't exist to y'all. Not to mention this post is just weird. It's not a coincidence that he posts this the day after nothing comes of that visit. Oh yeah, the visit they apparently didn't ask him to do and that they knew nothing about. Yeahhhh right!
Did I mention a couple of months ago that he commented on a post talking about how manipulative I am to my husband, how I've lied to him, and how I've beaten him down? haha, this was in response to a status my cousin-in-law posted about her boyfriend, who had tragically just died. She was saying how it's unfair that people leave their loved ones of their own choosing, but her's was taken from her. First, I think it's super insensitive to make her hard time about yourself (but I don't expect anything different from them). Second, I'm pretty sure she was talking about spouses/fiances/significant others leaving each other because her boyfriend was planning on proposing - ring and all. She got the ring the day after he died. Anyway, everyone ignored his comment - maybe people see through their stupid ways and are sick of it. I know I sure am.
Well, I just think it's laughable that they are "trying" to be fake to us, but we know better! We have too much negativity from them to believe this facade - both from them in the past, and what they are currently saying/doing to others/online that we find out about.
You know, it'll be 5 years this Fall that we cut them out of our lives. And they still haven't gotten a clue. Sad, right?
